I’m going to write about a topic that is, for one, controversial, and two, is an issue quite close to my heart. It’s going to be a series, so the more controversial parts begin in the next installment.
Waiting. Not waiting for just any ol’ thing. Waiting for him (or her as is the case for men).
You know what I’m talking about: the (seemingly) long and lonely wait for the man (or woman) whom God (eventually) will bring into your life.
Personally, as a young girl, I dreamed of meeting and marrying that man at eighteen so we could have a big family right off. I’m now five months from my twentieth birthday, and have no such prospect. And guess what? I’m extremely grateful to God that “dream” didn’t come true. There were (and are yet) so many lessons I needed to learn. I haven’t gotten the full grasp of most, if not all, of them.
I do miss him, however. At one point or another in the course of the day, I will think about him. I keep a journal of letters to my future husband (whom my friends and I have acronymized “FDH” – Future Dear Husband). I don’t know if he’s the type to read sappy love letters or even write them himself, but it makes no difference to me. I’d rather write them and give them to him and let him decide than not write them and regret that I didn’t have the opportunity to give him that choice.
But that’s beside the point. God didn’t mean for us to continually pine for our future spouse. Our single years are meant for huge things. Or in the words of Alex and Brett Harris, “hard things.” Things for the glory of God and His kingdom. There are billions of people needing to be reached – and we can do it while we wait! Why not make the most of the years normally spent doing…well, not much.
I have resolved to learn and do and absorb and experience throughout these years. I want to do something. Why not do it when I have nothing better to do with my time besides watch TV or kill time with some other useless, unintelligent, nonactivity? If I am capable, I’m going to do it. If I’m not capable…well, I’m going to try! I’m going to learn things I can use in everyday life as well as things for my future. With God’s direction I will do hard things big and small and in between; spiritual, physical, mental, and otherwise.
So wait on the Lord…but not as if you’re waiting for your life to begin. Wait as though your life hangs in the balance. Take advantage of your years of singlehood and make the most of the incredible storehouse of knowledge God has provided for you. Don’t waste your life. Do hard things. Hunger for God. Fight the enemy within, and you’ll find no greater joy than in cultivating humility and walking in God’s way.
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